09 Jan

Now, this is one subject matter that I have a lot interest in and that’s because I used to have a different opinion and view about the subject matter then from what I have now. Overtime, so many things have changed about what I think about it.

sophie briggsSome days ago, I was having a chat with a female friend of mine who was bitterly complaining about her tummy (stomach) which used to be flat has now gone bigger and no longer flat. She was really bothered that she sought advice on what she could use to reduce the size of the tummy and actually take it back to its flat nature.

I am neither a doctor nor have any medical knowledge of any sort so obviously I couldn’t prescribe any medical solution to the situation but I decided to share my own thoughts on the matter and I made her see reasons why she shouldn’t be too bothered about the  whole issue of getting her tummy back to the flat nature, if it wouldn’t  just go back to being flat. This immediately made me remember this topic I had always wanted to write on but I guess this is definitely the most appropriate of times to write on it.

While we were chatting, she actually said something that I totally agree with, she said that everyone wants a lady with a flat tummy, which is considerably true. But I asked her a question, I said, “what happens if that lady that a man started dating while she had her flat tummy now with time turns a lady with a big tummy”? Now the essence of that question was to make her remember that changes occur constantly and people change so also features in people. A slim lady today can become a fat lady tomorrow while that fat lady that everybody believes is too fat can lose weight tomorrow and become slim, so nothing stays permanent in this life so also beauty.

On a much grand scale, beauty while of course is the attraction point most times between a man and a lady but I don’t believe it should be the main reason while two people should date themselves. The physical beauty while it’s very good thing is just a gift of nature which should not determine who one dates or not. What happens if that beautiful partner of ours loses that beautiful part of him/her that we were dating the person for, it only simply mean that we will lose interest and bolt away like Hussein bolt on the track.

oyebanji jnrBeauty should be seen from the inside rather than the physical appearance. There are so many beautiful young ladies out there with very nice curves, flat tummy, well-structured face, flawless skins and well carved out figure that end up being the wrong type of lady for any man while the ones who might not be physically beautiful becomes the goddess in the house that makes everything run smoothly.

As we grow older so many things change about us and our body features. These are only natural changes that must occur with time so that lady with that flat tummy could lose it tomorrow, that man with very smooth face could also lose.  A musician once said in his song, “you are beautiful the way” so there is no need to want to be like the next girl. There is that one person out there who likes you just the way you are.

While I am not in any way by this post saying that we shouldn’t take care of our physical appearance, I am only saying that for those that are naturally beautiful then it’s a good one but for those that are less than beautiful they shouldn’t be discouraged. Look for that special thing in you that others don’t have and make it your beauty mark.

Finally, going into a relationship with a person should be for a more cogent reason other than the person’s beauty because changes occur and that feature in that person could just be gone with time and leave you in a wilderness of your own thoughts.

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Posted by on January 9, 2013 in Love&relationship


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  1. Banji

    January 10, 2013 at 4:53 am

    As I was reading dz.. I was just singing Beneath your beautiful by Labrinth ft Emeli Sande. Nice write up Blessing!

    But really does money make anyone beautiful? I think only if the person is ugly!


    • kelsmoothng

      January 10, 2013 at 8:12 am

      thank you. that is actually one very nice song. well, for some, i think money is all that matters, at that point, the money that person has can make him/her beautiful



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