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SHOULD PHYSICAL BEAUTY REALLY MATTER?

Now, this is one subject matter that I have a lot interest in and that’s because I used to have a different opinion and view about the subject matter then from what I have now. Overtime, so many things have changed about what I think about it.

sophie briggsSome days ago, I was having a chat with a female friend of mine who was bitterly complaining about her tummy (stomach) which used to be flat has now gone bigger and no longer flat. She was really bothered that she sought advice on what she could use to reduce the size of the tummy and actually take it back to its flat nature.

I am neither a doctor nor have any medical knowledge of any sort so obviously I couldn’t prescribe any medical solution to the situation but I decided to share my own thoughts on the matter and I made her see reasons why she shouldn’t be too bothered about the  whole issue of getting her tummy back to the flat nature, if it wouldn’t  just go back to being flat. This immediately made me remember this topic I had always wanted to write on but I guess this is definitely the most appropriate of times to write on it.

While we were chatting, she actually said something that I totally agree with, she said that everyone wants a lady with a flat tummy, which is considerably true. But I asked her a question, I said, “what happens if that lady that a man started dating while she had her flat tummy now with time turns a lady with a big tummy”? Now the essence of that question was to make her remember that changes occur constantly and people change so also features in people. A slim lady today can become a fat lady tomorrow while that fat lady that everybody believes is too fat can lose weight tomorrow and become slim, so nothing stays permanent in this life so also beauty.

On a much grand scale, beauty while of course is the attraction point most times between a man and a lady but I don’t believe it should be the main reason while two people should date themselves. The physical beauty while it’s very good thing is just a gift of nature which should not determine who one dates or not. What happens if that beautiful partner of ours loses that beautiful part of him/her that we were dating the person for, it only simply mean that we will lose interest and bolt away like Hussein bolt on the track.

oyebanji jnrBeauty should be seen from the inside rather than the physical appearance. There are so many beautiful young ladies out there with very nice curves, flat tummy, well-structured face, flawless skins and well carved out figure that end up being the wrong type of lady for any man while the ones who might not be physically beautiful becomes the goddess in the house that makes everything run smoothly.

As we grow older so many things change about us and our body features. These are only natural changes that must occur with time so that lady with that flat tummy could lose it tomorrow, that man with very smooth face could also lose.  A musician once said in his song, “you are beautiful the way” so there is no need to want to be like the next girl. There is that one person out there who likes you just the way you are.

While I am not in any way by this post saying that we shouldn’t take care of our physical appearance, I am only saying that for those that are naturally beautiful then it’s a good one but for those that are less than beautiful they shouldn’t be discouraged. Look for that special thing in you that others don’t have and make it your beauty mark.

Finally, going into a relationship with a person should be for a more cogent reason other than the person’s beauty because changes occur and that feature in that person could just be gone with time and leave you in a wilderness of your own thoughts.

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Posted by on January 9, 2013 in Love&relationship

 

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QUOTE ME

Many a times, I found myself feeling down and inadequate to continue something I started because I feel I am not doing it up to standard or am just not good enough in doing it. At those times, I just remember one particular quote that has always got me going and I say it loudly, “it can only get better” and at those times I found out that I just get up, puts my acts together and get going.

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For some very few reasons, this quote gets me going because in everything I do, the room to always get better is always left open. One thing, if I feel so inadequate about what I am doing and being tempted to believe that I am not good enough at what I do, then I simply say ,”it can only get better”. I never give up whenever i remember this magic quote.

Yet another reason why I keep going back to that quote is that even when I feel that I am good at what I do, I know that I can’t get it 100 per cent right, then I also look at myself and say that it can always get better. This quote is so important to me that I keep coming back to it over and over and over again because, every sphere of life is improved based on the fact that everything we do van always get better. As a blogger, though I might not have gotten to the vantage point, I might even still be at the bottom of the ladder with respect to writing good articles with very good style of writing, but it can only get better.

For me, that is the magic quote that gets me going, what is yours, and why do you go back to it again and again?

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Posted by on January 5, 2013 in miscellaneous

 

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KEEP DOING WHAT YOU DO

For quite some days now, I have really been discouraged about writing articles for this blog and it really weighed me down because I always get that feeling when I start out on something, in the middle of the task, I just lose interest and stop everything. It had always giving me concern and have even gotten me in troubles but I have never really bothered much about finding a solution not until now that it’s beginning to affect my dream of becoming a full-time blogger and probably a writer.

I have read a lot of books and articles on what the problem really could be and was able to come out with a reasonable solution that got me back on my feet so here I am coming up with a summary article that helped me and could help any other person who might have similar challenges as I did to come out of it and continue what they have started.

do what you loveFirstly, in combating the challenge of losing interest in blogging, I had to think about the reason I started blogging, how long it took me to muster up the courage to start and how much I really do love blogging. Getting to know the reason you started a task with ultimately help you to continue whatever it is you are doing.

Then, i took a look at where i started from and what i have accomplished. “The journey of a thousand years starts with just a single step”, The most important part of the whole challenge is that you have started the task and continuing it should not be as difficult as starting.

Nobody-notices_Sign_01-560x560Furthermore, I was also spurred on by thinking on how I have fared in just the few days that I have started blogging, the reactions I have gotten so far. If you have the feeling that you are doing smoothly though might not be as good as you want it, it should spur you on to continue, after all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. You don’t expect to your destination just as soon as you start the journey.

Getting into a cycle will also be of immense benefit. What I mean by this is that you should get acquainted with people that do the same or almost the same kind of task as you. I have been able to hook up with other bloggers and seeing their blogs have really inspired me positively to continue writing.

rewardsYou should also make goals and reward yourself when you get to the desired goal set. As a blogger, I made a goal of writing at least an article a day and I have been doing that. Though I failed to write a single article in two days but I didn’t feel too bad because it’s part of the process. It made me only more determined to want to achieve my goal and never stopping until the desired goal is achieved.

Learn new things about what you are doing. As a blogger, I have learnt so many new things that even when I am not writing, I feel I am missing out on a lot of thing and this has got me back into what I am doing. Learning a new thing in what you do will go a long way to helping you in getting your groove on.

Doing what you do continuously will reap rich rewards if you do not tire out. You can learn from my experience and I am sure it will go a long way in pulling you out of the muddy waters of losing interest in what you.

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Posted by on January 4, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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HAPPY NEW YEAR

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2012 has come and gone, 2013 is finally here. From all of us at kelsmooth.wordpress.com, we say a very HAPPY NEW YEAR to our numerous readers.

We promise to make 2013 a very wonderful one for you all.

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Posted by on January 1, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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THANK YOU FOR BEING MY FRIEND

I have been writing so many articles on year 2012 and year 2013 in recent times and I think I will still write a couple more before the year 2012 winds down. Don’t get tired because it is going to be on different issues that are so important. I am so happy for many reasons and I am grateful for the friends I have who have kept me in top mood.

For few weeks now or even a month, my friends on my BBM list have been appreciating their friends in one way or the other. Some have done this by just having pictures of their friends as their display picture(DP) for some minutes or even a few hours, others take it a step further by sending broadcast messages(BCs) while a particular friend of mine went a little more personal by sending me a personal message via BBM. While this is so common to those of us on BBM, it is less common using SMS or even through other means of communication.

It really made me happy that I have friends who appreciate our friendship and are willing to say  THANK YOU to me for being their friend. Though, I am not a big fan of showing appreciations by displaying pictures, sending broadcast messages, sending SMSes or even calling but I do appreciate all my friends and that’s why I have taking time out to write this article for them.

I might not be able to write the names of all my friends or even state what they have done for me personally in one way or the other, but all I just want to say is THANK YOU for being a friend in 2012. I have got to appreciate my friends for so many reasons.

THE HAPPY TIMES– These were times when you were the source of my joy and happiness. These times really made me feel loved accepted and appreciated. These times boost my confidence and made me feel that the world starts and ends with you. For all this I say THANK YOU

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THE SAD TIMES– These were times when you let me down. These times I felt rejected, dejected, disappointed and unappreciated. I don’t hold it against you because, the sad times made me stronger and more experienced in dealing with life issues. For all this times, I also say THANK YOU.

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THE TIMES OF SHARING- These were times when I was in dire need of help, assistance, advice, money (hmm!) and every other thing and you were always there to rescue and help me out of the situation. For all these times, I say THANK YOU.

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Finally, for all my friends that were in hibernate mode throughout 2012, the year 2013 is another year, we can make it better because friends are major parts of our lives. For those that have been there till now and till the end of the year, let’s do it in the New Year again.

To my numerous readers, find time to say a word of appreciation to your friends, it really goes a long way in helping your friendship grow. i just did and i hope you will too.

While I was writing this article, one song came to my mind and I will be dedicating this song to all my friends wherever they are.

The song is titled “THANK YOU FOR BEING A FRIEND” by “ANDREW GOLD

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Posted by on December 30, 2012 in Love&relationship

 

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BABY, CAN I HOLD YOU TONIGHT?

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Yeah! I know I am going to get more views this time compared to my former post on NEW YEAR RESOLUTION because we all want to hold somebody this festive season but I am so sorry to disappoint you, that is just the title of a song I so much love and believe in that I want share with my readers.

So many of us will by now be thinking of the title, trying to decipher who sang while some others by now already know the song that I am writing about. I didn’t just pick this song to write about, I picked it because of the lyrics, the effect the song will have on us if we ever pay the tiniest of attentions to what the singer was saying in that song and the timelessness of the song.

The song is no other than BABY, LET ME HOLD YOU TONIGHT by TRACY CHAPMAN. This song was released off her self-titled album ‘TRACY CHAPMAN’ in the year ‘1988’. The song obviously did lots of good for TRACY and will sure do lots of good to us too if we care enough to listen to her.

Here are the lyrics of the song:

Sorry
Is all that you can’t say
Years gone by and still
Words don’t come easily
Like sorry like sorry

Forgive me
Is all that you can’t say
Years gone by and still
Words don’t come easily
Like forgive me forgive me

But you can say baby
Baby can I hold you tonight
Maybe if I told you the right words
At the right time you’d be mine

I love you
Is all that you can’t say
Years gone by and still
Words don’t come easily
Like I love you I love you.

 

Tracy chapman in this song was trying to not just emphasizing the importance of romantic love, but also singing on how the world will be if we all learn to use the words ‘I am sorry’ and ‘forgive me’.  These words could be quite  difficult to say especially when we are the ones to say them but saying them does  a lot of good and heals a lot of wounds.

So, as we round up 2012, if we feel there is one person out there that you feel there is the need to go say those words to, don’t hesitate, do it right away enter into the new year, lets always remember this song and continue toi say ‘I am sorry’ and ‘ forgive me’ whenever we feel the need to.

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!

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Posted by on December 29, 2012 in Love&relationship, Music

 

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KEEPING A NEW YEAR RESOLUTION!!

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Three days to end of 2012 and four days to see the start of 2013, about this time so many people are rounding up a lot of things and preparing to start a whole lot of others because of the new year including the practice of making NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS. Are you planning to make one? Then this is for you.

A New Year’s resolution is commitment that a person makes to one or more personal goals, projects, or the reforming of a habit. A key element to a New Year’s Resolution that sets it apart from other resolutions is that it is made in anticipation of the New Year and new beginnings. People committing themselves to a New Year’s resolution generally plan to do so for the whole following year. This lifestyle change is generally interpreted as advantageous

The number of people that don’t keep a resolution they make is as much as the number of people that make a resolution from the beginning because of various reasons. A 2007 study by RICHARD WISEMAN Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on December 29, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Hello world!

Welcome to kelsmooth.wordpress.com!

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I want to use this medium to say a very big thank you to you for dropping by my blog to read my mind and all that i have inside. always come back for updated articles as this will be a continuous project.

Kelsmooth.worpdress.com is dedicated   to making lives better by writing beneficial and topical articles and giving tips on living a better life in its various forms ranging from health, love and relationship, entertainment,fashion and all there is to life.

Read, enjoy, share and comment to help us get better and help our numerous friends and readers. feel free to send us an email on anything you want to know our opinion on.

It can only get better!

Thank you and happy reading!!

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Posted by on July 4, 2012 in Welcome

 
 
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